Vows That Wow, by Rita Lamar

OK, you’ve done all the necessary planning for your wedding.  Your venue is in place, you have your music planned, your honeymoon and all your vendors are in place.  Now, it’s time to write your vows.  There is so much more to be said than just “I DO.”  Some  couples go with traditional vows..for better, for worse, richer/poor, sickness/health etc.  But is there a more modern way to pledge your undying love to one another at the ceremony?  If you are like most couples today, you may want to take more of an adventurous approach.   There is nothing more meaningful  than writing your personal vows on your wedding day.

Make an appointment to consult with your minister/officiant.  Discuss your personal ideas for vows.  How modern do you want to go?  Do you want to recite your personal vows and then let the officiant have you repeat after him/her in addition to?  Chances are, if you select a modern day, hip officiant, they will support whatever you decide to write and even give you suggestions.  Discuss the length of your vows.  I had an experience once where one partner read something short and to the point:  you are my soul mate, my friend, my confidant, dance partner and love of my life and I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with you.  Only to be followed by the other partner reciting 2 full pages of dialogue.  So,my personal suggestion would be to share what you’ve written to your officiant just to make sure both of you are in sync timewise.  A trusted officiant will never share your information with your significant other.


If you need inspiration, whynot choose words to your favorite song, prose or quote?  Maybe start your vows with a meaningful  quote that inspires YOU.  Talk about how your relationship inspires you.. how she makes you feel, why you chose her, what keeps you interested and why you want to spend the rest of your life with your partner.  What significant things do you think of when you think of your partner? How magical does she make you feel?  Most importantly, forget cliché’s you’ve heard along the way.  Write something that’s meaningful to you and your bond.  Be creative.  What are you looking forward to most?


Delivery:  after you’ve finished writing your personalized vows, share them with someone whom you trust. It can’t hurt to get an optinion outside the box (your head). Practice your speech.  Imagine yourself looking into your fiance’s eyes and don’t forget to breathe!