Your wedding will be one of the most spectacular and love-filled days in your life, but it can also remind a couple of those they have lost, and will certainly miss even more, on a day when family and friends have gathered to celebrate. We find a wedding to be an uplifting opportunity to memorialize those who have gone too soon and keep them present in everyone’s hearts.
Recently, a trend has developed to honor loved ones by using photos of them as charms in the bouquets and boutonnieres (we’ve even seen them as charms on shoes!). This method keeps your nearest and dearest nearby on your special day and we love this idea. We have come across several others which brought tears to our eyes that we’d love to share with you:
- Leaving an Empty Seat – whether it be one seat or more, leaving a spot in the audience open is a great way to represent your loved one’s spirited attendance. The seating can be decorated with flowers or their photo, and will surely keep family close when they cannot be.
- Something Old or Blue – use this tradition as an outlet to memorialize privately. A bride who has lost her mother can use a blue piece of her clothing as the wrap for her bouquet. A groom who has lost his father can give his bride an old, blue tie to be used in the same sense or sewn into the bride’s gown.
- Table of Photos and Candles – in a place everyone can admire, display photos of family who could not attend along with candles the bride and groom will light. The photos should bring happy thoughts to everyone’s mind; remember it’s your wedding day! Let’s remember them with photos that display their personalities, like the time grandpa sat on the swing at the park, and not just a headshot.
- Release a Message into the Sky – perhaps you’d like to dig deeper and write your loved one a letter expressing how much you miss them on this day. A thought is to make the memorial a bigger part of the reception by releasing balloons holding your message into the sky. Your whole party will value the idea and can take part with their message.
In any case, no matter what you choose to do or not do, our loved ones are always with us in Spirit and they bless your union.